I'm awake and have faded. Some family still in, some out. Didn't marry in, so I don't have that issue. Still have the anger and regret. Still working on moving on with life, career, and friends.
Billy the Ex-Bethelite
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What stage are you in after leaving or waking up to TTATT?
by suavojr ini can honestly say that although still in, i have lost the fear of wts dooms day version and in all sincerity i don't care what others inside the cult think of me.
at first i was mad of being lied to, i was sad that paradise is not coming, and i felt fear of death.
i happy to report, that i am now at peace with my eventual mortality and i am enjoying every second i have while i am alive.. .
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I used to think that 7 million JWs was a large number
by dogon inthen i saw a stat that made me think differently.
there are 7 million practicing voodoo religion world wide.
about the same as jws, and the big thing is that they do not at all go out and try to convert people at all, not one pamphlet not one tract no door to door calls, phone calls nothing nada.
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Billy the Ex-Bethelite
Give me 7 millions dollars and that's alot of money... thank you very much.
7 million members of a religion that think that they will be the only armageddon survivors that will create a global paradise? ... that's just a deluded small minority of humans.
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Can religion be banned?
by FL_Panthers inis this a realistic thing?
can the governments or someone else ban religion?.
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Billy the Ex-Bethelite
WT prophecies were wrong on this count as well. Sure, many of us have turned away from religion after leaving WT, but I drive past plenty of churches that are booming... much more alive than the local Kingdumb Haul.
And Islam isn't going away any time soon. That's a religion that is able to ban governments.
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org is dying
by lambsbottom ini don't understand why so many ex jws and faders think that the jws will continue to grow and thrive as a religion.
i still attend a meeting once a week and you can smell the death of the religion creeping up when you hear the talks, read the study wts and hear the letters from the gb.
the way the organization has changed is a sign that it reached its peak (in "healthy" membership) long ago.
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Billy the Ex-Bethelite
It's hard to say what the future holds for the JWs. Although it posts numeric increase in the yearbooks, there is no booming growth like years past. The property sell-off and other money grabs can't continue indefinitely. Then what happens?
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"Hello from Phats"
by phats inhay out there.. wife got back from her thursday meeting & now she's setteled down with the dog, a v large g&t (maid be me) & watching terminator 2 on the telly with her ipad on her lap looking up places to go for our holiday (& googling symptoms of to many antibiotics as my 16 year old is getting signs of ibs).
so now is a good time to say hello.. well hello.
my name is phats & i'm an ex jehovah's witness.. there, i've said it.. this must be like it is going to your first aa meeting.. i've already used up some of my posts for a newbe but i'm not in to the whole long story thing.. basically i've been out now for 8 years (mentally out for all but four or five of those years of my life when i made the commitment, got baptized & married.).
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Billy the Ex-Bethelite
Welcome!
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Is it wrong to mock and ridicule the Watchtower Society?
by yadda yadda 2 inrobert j ingersoll on the great voltaire:.
"it has been claimed by the christian critics that voltaire was irreverent; that he examined sacred things without solemnity; that he refused to remove his shoes in the presence of the burning bush; that he smiled at the geology of moses, the astronomical ideas of joshua, and that the biography of jonah filled him with laughter.
they say that these stories, these sacred impossibilities, these inspired falsehoods, should be read and studied with a believing mind in humbleness of spirit; that they should be examined prayerfully, asking god at the same time to give us strength to triumph over the conclusions of our reason.
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Billy the Ex-Bethelite
The Watchtower Society has no problem mocking and ridiculing the beliefs and practices of others. They may go light on it in their litteratrash for public consumption, but when you read their litteratrash for believers, their old publications, and listen to their talks and conversations, mock and ridicule is their standard.
Consequently, if they can dish it out, they deserve to get mock and ridicule served right back to them!
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I Need Help Getting My Head Straight.......
by TTATTelder inone of the things i have been wresting with mentally is unraveling the "us vs. them" mentality that has been driven into my skull in the organization.. i am starting this thread seeking advice on how others have come to grip with this.. this is what i struggle with:.
i like the feeling/thought of being among people that live, or try to live, or at least know they ought to live by higher standards of conduct (maybe it is just what i'm used to...).
when you walk out of a convention of people dressed up, clean-cut, shaven, non-smoking, less-profanity-speaking, fairly orderly etc and see what greets you in the streets outside, it is a big contrast.. i am also still trying to understand how a religion that has conned people (so is morally wrong) could also be so well organized and have a lot of truly decent folks among their ranks.
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Billy the Ex-Bethelite
"When you walk out of a convention of people dressed up, clean-cut, shaven, non-smoking, less-profanity-speaking, fairly orderly etc and see what greets you in the streets outside, it is a big contrast."
There are plenty of snapshot moments like that with the JWs. There are plenty of such snapshot moments with the Mormons and any number of other religions as well. But what you list is all window-dressing. I can't speak for your experience as an elder, but I was often disillusioned at how troubled, unhappy, or downright abuse many of these "clean-cut" people were. The bethel family looked clean and shiny, but there were plenty of problems in that nuthouse. And the last congregation I was with in bethel looked ideal on the outside, but it was so stressful as an elder because it was an unbelievable bloodbath of personality conflicts and non-stop problems. I've known way too many JWs that have committed suicide.
When I look at the people walking the streets outside of the "spiritual paradise", I see a real blend of some people that have it together and some that don't. I see people I wish I was like, and others that I don't. So when I see JWs walking down the street or standing at their litteratrash carts, I see people that may be good, but have been brainwashed into a bland beige with their potential talents or skills going to waste. They have been taught to believe that they are better than everyone else because they conform to what WT says they need to be.
And those smiling people really believe that everyone that doesn't blindly obey the popes in Brooklyn will soon have their heads smashed by rocks falling from the sky. That's what those orderly, well-dressed JWs are praying for!
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The Botchtower's attitude towards using the Internet
by Composer2005 inhas the botchtower discouraged or spoken against members using the internet?.
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satan / devils environment & all that j.w bs!.
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Billy the Ex-Bethelite
Recalling what was said by COs, and talks at CAs, SADs, and DCs, the Internet used to be from the devil! Early on, it was considered a waste of time and money that should be used for preaching. As time passed, they latched on to anything that put the Internet in a negative light... Internet addiction, porn, and worst of all apostates! It was expected that if someone browsed on the web, they would constantly have pop-up windows opening chock full of porn. And it was expected that married JWs would almost immediately find a "friend" on the Internet and abandon their family. With time, warnings about apostates on the Internet increased constantly. I wouldn't have been surprised if a home Internet connection would have been grounds for judicial action.
But times change. Children often needed Internet access in order to do homework, and the parents needed it for their jobs. It all become much more mainstream. So, WT said that if a family was going to have Internet access, they should have it in a public area of their home... so the rest of the family could play the WT role of "big brother".
As WT has slashed their expenses to the bone, they decided to consecrate the Internet. In their own pathetic vision, they speak of their website as something ingenious and grandeous. When in actuality, it's very static and blah. Since they've ordered that no JWs setup any websites, their singular website is all alone, surrounded by anti-JW websites of many kinds.
And there are still lots of JWs who still don't have broadband or any Internet... like some of my relatives. They have certainly noticed the fact that WT has flip-flopped on this issue. It used to be that the Internet was evil, then it could be in the living room, now WT is featuring themselves as a smartphone app! Guess what else you'll be able to access on that smartphone in the privacy of your bedroom... www.jehovahs-witness.net
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This week's WT study...made me so sick.....
by stuckinarut2 inthis week's study april 15th 2014 was called "do you see the one who is invisible?".
it was perhaps one of the most depressing, controlling, fear-mongering, stress inducing, doctrinally incorrect, hate-inspiring, judgemental, cult-like, irrational, hyped-up, critical, crazy, stretched out, fanciful, illogical, burdensome, inflated, coersive, manipulative, and brain-snappingly weird stuff i have read for some time.... (but i'm sure it was just a rehash and repeat of previous stuff...for the new masses....).
i had to keep up a sane appearance while in the hall, and even answer some garbage while this was being 'studied'... my cognitive disonance must be so strong now, because i found this one of the hardest ones to endure....now that i am home, i have poured a stiff drink and am trying to clear my head...... one paragraph was classic:.
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Billy the Ex-Bethelite
So they still teach that "false religion" will soon be destroyed by the governments? Clearly, the world isn't paying attention. They may point to parts of Europe and Asia where religion isn't what it used to be, but Islam isn't going away anytime soon. Hinduism is still going strong. Plenty of Christian churches are still filling seats. And these religions are an active part of electing leaders. Religions are more often destroying governments than governments destroying religion.
And WT certainly hasn't acted like they are preparing for the time when governments will turn on them. When they used to have many branches, it gave them "safe haven" in areas of sympathy. Now it's rather few key branches that could be shut down in Germany, Mexico, Britain, etc. And I often thought when I was in bethel how easy it would be in Brooklyn if there was a sudden ban, we could disappear into the subway, or drive into traffic and just disappear into the crowd. The government wouldn't drop bombs across the river from Manhattan. Meanwhile, Wallkill could be simply bombed into oblivion. Now that "headquarters" is being moved to a remote compound, how very easy for the government to round up the GB in a matter of moments. And with all the cash that is now being sent to WT, it would be very easy for the government to round up all WT assets in one swoop. Back when individual congregations had money, they would have had more time and options for protecting money. And, of course, we used to have book study groups in homes that were supposed to prepare us for meeting under ban. That is long gone. Clearly, what WT is doing is completely different from what they claim to believe.
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Ensure that you dont appear to be Negative , Unhappy or Bitter
by stuckinarut2 injust a quick thought.... we know that the org loves to paint all those who fade or leave as "negative, bitter and unhappy"...because of course "the truth is the happiest way to live".
so, never allow ourselves to be that way when talking with witnesses, or family members still in.. show them that we are happy, our lives are fulfilled and positive.. then they have no ammunition.
also, it helps other doubters to see that there is life in the world beyond the org..
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Billy the Ex-Bethelite
I have bad days and good days... but overall, I'm much happier now.
Ugh, just imagine the alternative. This would be me in 30 years if I would have stayed "in".
"Why am I so happy? Because Jehovah promises that billions of innocent men, women, and children will be slaughtered by rocks falling from the sky. Then I get a pet panda. ... Very soon now. In the meantime, you'll have to excuse me, I have to go to one of my cleaning jobs."
